Have you ever wondered what does it take to have a successful and fulfilling marriage? What have couples that have happy and fulfilling marriages figured out that struggling couples have not? They commit to making their marriage a priority! Let’s face it, whatever area of our lives (career, health, spirituality) that we focus on and give our full attention will be successful. Where we put our time, energy, and effort will grow and magnify, that is just the reality of it. Marriage is no different. If we want to have a successful and vibrant marriage then we MUST make a commitment to make our relationship a priority.
If your marriage matters and means something important to you then decide TODAY that you will fight for your marriage by making it a priority in your life. The meaning that we attach to our relationship (positive or negative) will determine how we feel about the relationship and we will act accordingly. If we are struggling in our marriage we begin to tell ourselves…we are falling out of love…my spouse doesn’t understand me….we are just different people now…things will never change….this marriage thing is just too hard. If we consistently tell ourselves this story over and over again we begin to believe that it’s true. We begin to see our marriage as a failure with no hope to save it. The minute we attach that meaning to our relationship, we quit fighting for our marriage.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) 1601 says this about marriage; “The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament.”
CCC 1603 says “The intimate community of life and love which constitutes the married state has been established by the Creator and endowed by him with its own proper laws…God himself is the author of marriage…Marriage is not a purely human institution despite the many variations it may have undergone through the centuries in different cultures, social structures, and spiritual attitudes…The well-being of the individual person and of both human and Christian society is closely bound up with the healthy state of conjugal and family life.”
When we look at marriage from the perspective of the Catholic Church it changes everything. Sadly, many Catholics are not aware of or lose sight of the significant meaning of sacramental marriage. When we view, understand, and believe that marriage is something holy, created by God, raised to the dignity of a sacrament, and ordered toward the good of the spouses and the well-being of society…we begin to live out our sacrament with a sense of purpose and mission.
The proper perspective will help us think about our marriage in a different way and it will lead us to treat our relationship with the highest dignity. This perspective will help us make decisions that put our marriage first, not last. Meaning, you say no to the attitudes and activities that don’t serve your marriage, and say yes to making your relationship a priority. When your marriage is in a good place, everyone wins…your marriage, your family, and society!
Are you ready to pivot and start making your relationship a priority? If you desire a deeper connection with your spouse, consider implementing the 3 Cs to Happiness that will help you create a fulfilling marriage. Make a commitment to practice the 3 Cs to Happiness consistently, be intentional about growing your relationship, and strive to transform and build the relationship you desire!
By practicing the 3 Cs to Happiness and focusing on making your marriage a priority you will reap the rewards of a happy and fulfilling marriage!